Tag: feminism

A Self-Respecting Feminist?

Filed in National by on May 13, 2016 51 Comments
A Self-Respecting Feminist?

Yesterday’s comment section was, indeed, nuts, but when I went back and reread it several things jumped out at me. First, the incorrect use and expectation of feminism. Let’s start with the definition of feminism: 1 :  the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes 2 :  organized activity on behalf […]

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We’re Going To Have To Talk About Sexism Because It’s Surrounding Us

Filed in National by on February 8, 2016 50 Comments
We’re Going To Have To Talk About Sexism Because It’s Surrounding Us

Basically, everyone needs to stop the sexist behavior, whether it is in the form of BernieBros or the Women on Women Crime that Gloria Steinem and Madeline Albright engaged in. If we did, perhaps, we could discuss issues like Climate Change, reproductive rights, immigration, Police brutality, improving our education system, Foreign Policy (altho this was touched on in the last debate) our crumbling infrastructure – you know, things that our candidates aren’t discussing. Personally, I’d like to hear about these issues, as well as income inequality. Hopefully I get my wish because these things matter, too.

Income inequality is an important issue, but it isn’t the only one, and right now I’m not sure where the candidates stand on other issues that matter to me. That’s a problem for me. A BIG one. It’s probably the reason I can’t pick a candidate. I need more, because the office of President is about more, but you wouldn’t know that by listening to the debates. Guess I’m saying, I completely understand where each candidates stand on income inequality… can we start to include other things? There actually are other things.

Meanwhile, can we step up our game and drop the sexism on both sides?

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Young Women Are Not So Impressed by Hillary

Filed in National by on February 4, 2016 24 Comments
Young Women Are Not So Impressed by Hillary

Running against the Clinton story that Bernie’s support comes mainly from only bros, women under 30 in Iowa voted overwhelmingly for Bernie Sanders.

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Warning: “Choreplay” Isn’t A Cute Phrase, So Don’t Use It. Really, Just Don’t

Filed in National by on March 12, 2015 26 Comments
Warning: “Choreplay” Isn’t A Cute Phrase, So Don’t Use It. Really, Just Don’t

Even as a stay-at-home mom who handles almost all the household work, the term “choreplay” irritates me. Haven’t heard it yet? Well, here’s what it means: Men can get more sex if they do chores around the house.

This NYT article makes a lot of good points, including the part about fathers and women’s voices in business. (Note to beer and car manufacturers: I’m the one who buys most of the beer in our household. I don’t drink beer, but I buy it for my husband since I’m the one who runs most of the errands. I’m also part of the car buying decision. So if your ad is sexist and I don’t like it, I won’t buy your product. Perhaps, you should cater to me, too. I swear, when I watch some of these commercials I know there aren’t women, in positions of power, making decisions, because half this nonsense would never be aired if there were.)

But here’s where the NYT’s article goes off the rails…..

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I Really Didn’t Want To Write About 50 Shades Of Grey

Filed in Delaware by on February 19, 2015 26 Comments
I Really Didn’t Want To Write About 50 Shades Of Grey

In May of 2012 I wrote a post about 50 Shades of Grey called 50 Shades of Agony. I admit to not finishing the book because, well, I couldn’t stand it. It was, without a doubt, the worst thing I’ve ever read. But I was clear that if the book “worked” for you, then enjoy. That’s the thing about fantasies, they’re personal and usually private.

I haven’t seen the movie, but will probably “hate watch” it once it lands on HBO. There’s simply too much talk for me not to watch it. My curiosity is probably due to the million or so articles written about movie – and I don’t think that number is too far off the mark.

So what prompted me to finally write about 50 Shades of Grey? It began with a post over at Delaware Politics (Yes. I know.) by David Anderson titled: 50 Shades A Failure of Modern Feminism.

50 Shades just brought to light what in form or another is normal behavior for millions. What is more interesting to me is that it tears to shreds the emasculation of relationships by modern feminism. 50 Shades is not what I would call the road map to healthy relationships, yet it is popular to near record levels not scene since (ironically) the Passion of the Christ.

I found intriguing this article by frequent guest author, Jon Moseley. His premise is that 50 Shades are a perversion of the natural yearning of many women for real men. It speaks to the void in our society created in the last 70 years of the attempt to cleanse society of “a man’s strength and leadership”. He contends that it is a perversion of the healthy original filling the void left by remake of society by the left.

That’s quite a leap, and one not based in reality.

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Can You Hear Me Now?

Filed in National by on June 6, 2014 29 Comments
Can You Hear Me Now?

Last week Cassandra put up a post entitled #YesAllWomen and things got interesting.  The entire thread (and its evolution or… reduction?) is worth your time to read, but, for this post, I’m going to deal with my interactions with individual commenters – which means I’ll be taking the comments out of order to highlight the individual conversations.

I’ve debated on how to do this and decided to post comments in their entirety – which means this post will be ridiculously long, but quotes will not be taken out of context.  (FYI: I’ve placed the comments in blockquotes, so they can be easily identified.  Anything in blockquotes is a direct comment from the #YesAllWomen thread.  Everyone with me?)  Hey, look at this as your weekend reading!

Basically, I’m going to dissect these conversations.  I am also writing this post from my point of view (and only my point of view) – how I interpreted these responses as a women.

I was actually surprised by how frustrated I became writing this post, and I shudder when I think of the forthcoming comments.  Mainly because I’m not sure if we can have this discussion without getting defensive.  I’ll also point out that while I am calling out certain people’s comments I am doing so in a attempt to see if people can relate to my reactions to certain words, phrases, tone, etc.  Again, this post is about how I interpreted comments… and I didn’t always interpret them nicely, so feel free to call me out.  But once you do that… do you think you could comment on my point; do you think there’s a conversation to be had?  If you do, then after you call me out, could you address that?

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Girls Rationalize Sexual Assault As… Normal?

Filed in National by on April 15, 2014 21 Comments
Girls Rationalize Sexual Assault As… Normal?

First, let me start off by saying that I’ve witnessed the normalization of sexual assault first hand – through my experience and now through my 16 year old daughter.  It feels like an uphill battle.  My small victory?  Everyone at the Pandora household has stopped using gender specific words in a negative, and a positive, fashion.

But take a look at this study.  I doubt you’ll be surprised.

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Please. Just Stop

Filed in National by on November 15, 2013 4 Comments
Please.  Just Stop

Seriously? At least we know her mind won’t be preoccupied with haute couture. Here’s the black-on-black ensemble she sported last month when President Barack Obama officially nominated her: (Jewel Samad/AFP/Getty Images) And her battle gear of choice for today’s nomination hearing on Capitol Hill: (Tom Williams/CQ Roll Call) Mind you, nobody has ever accused HOH […]

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My Valentine’s Day Gift To You – When Trolls Are Awesome!

Filed in National by on February 14, 2013 3 Comments
My Valentine’s Day Gift To You – When Trolls Are Awesome!

So this happened

After some Reddit/4chan MRA babies tried to make #INeedMasculismBecause happen on Twitter today (co-opting the popular feminist meme, because EYEROLL), it blew up in their faces bigtime. The hashtag was gleefully hijacked by the normal, thinking humans of Twitter, who are currently churning out hundreds of tweets lampooning Men’s Rights talking points.

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Joe Scarborough Claims He’s Not A Chauvinist By Acting Like A Chauvinist

Filed in National by on January 10, 2013 16 Comments

First, Mika didn’t call Joe a chauvinist, but she should have.  Check out the part where he snaps his fingers at her.  Unbelievable!  He also never lets her finish a sentence… he’s too busy mansplaining. Joe Scarborough is a chauvinist.

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Iowa Supreme Court Rules: Okay To Fire Women For Being “Irresistible”

Filed in National by on December 26, 2012 21 Comments

Wow.

Women in Iowa beware: If your boss thinks you’re really really ridiculously good looking, he can fire you. And it’s perfectly legal. The all-male Iowa Supreme Court refused to reinstate a lawsuit Friday, noting that a dentist didn’t break the law when he fired an employee who had worked for him for 10 years because he and his wife saw her as a threat to their marriage, reports the Associated Press. Melissa Nelson, the 32-year-old dental assistant was by all accounts a stellar employee. But her boss, James Knight, complained of her tight clothing, “once telling her that if his pants were bulging that was a sign her clothes were too revealing.”

I’m not even sure where to begin.  How about…

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Some Girls Are Just So Rapey

Filed in National by on October 11, 2012 28 Comments
Some Girls Are Just So Rapey

Todd Akin isn’t a bug in the Republican Party, he’s a feature.

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I’m Telling You, We’re This Close To Burqas

Filed in National by on September 10, 2012 6 Comments
I’m Telling You, We’re <i>This</i> Close To Burqas

A woman gets sexually assaulted by a police officer and the female judge gives her a lecture. If women don’t want to be sexually assaulted then they need to stay home and stop tempting men.  And if they do leave their homes and an incident like this happens they need to stop whining.

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The Fashion House Of Sununu

Filed in National by on September 5, 2012 5 Comments

Really? And Republicans wonder why they’ve lost the women’s vote.

Former New Hampshire Gov. John Sununu questioned reports that the Tracey Reese dress Michelle Obama wore for her convention address Tuesday night cost $350 on a conference call with reporters Wednesday. Sununu accused the Obama campaign of peddling several lies, including the cost of the dress: “somehow I don’t think that’s the truth either.”

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Girls Just Wanna… Play Ball

Filed in International, Sports by on August 8, 2012 6 Comments

First, the Pandora household has now taken to watching the Olympics On-Demand.  NBC’s coverage has driven all of us away.  What has also bothered us, mainly my daughter, is how the commentary surrounding female athletes has been dominated by their hairstyles, emotional moments, and uniform colors and bikini styles.  So when my Cross-Country and Track […]

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Men Don’t Like Being Called “Creepy”

Filed in National by on April 23, 2012 29 Comments

Though the word may be occasionally used unfairly (for example, to describe a physically unattractive guy’s genuinely respectful attempt at striking up a conversation), “creepy” serves a vital function.

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Katniss Everdeen Is No Bella Swan

Filed in Delaware, National by on March 26, 2012 14 Comments

Before I get into this allow me to tell everyone what I tell my kids – The book is always better than the movie! That said, I am thrilled with Katniss Everdeen! Katniss is a strong, consistent in her actions, smart hero. You can’t help but root for her. And go ahead and cheer, because Katniss Everdeen won’t let you down. There is no damsel in distress moment, no need to be rescued for stupid, reckless behavior. Not one.

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Putting A Price Tag On Sex

Filed in National by on September 28, 2011 10 Comments

Given all the stupid articles ever written about sex, this has to be the stupidest. Grab a cup of coffee, this is going to take a while.

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Pointy-Haired Cartoonist

Filed in National by on March 28, 2011 25 Comments

Dilbert cartoonist Scott Adams created a controversy when he wrote about Men’s Rights Activists and compared women to children and the mentally handicapped.

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The Mommy Wars Leave Out The Kids

Filed in Delaware, National by on November 19, 2010 2 Comments

There are some things I agree with in Erica Jong’s WSJ article, but there’s a lot I do not.  While she goes to great lengths to make the point that mothers shouldn’t feel guilty the point gets lost amid the guilt she dishes out. Cooperative child-rearing is obviously convenient, but some anthropologists believe that it […]

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Happy 90th 19th Amendment

Filed in National by on August 19, 2010 3 Comments

On the anniversary of the 19th amendment the U.S. Chamber of Commerce says women who fight for equal pay have a fetish for money.

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The Real Feminists

Filed in National by on August 18, 2010 15 Comments

According to the Minnesota GOP, GOP women are hawt, Democratic women are not. Nanny booboo.

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Phyllis Schlafly Is Pro-Life… Sorta

Filed in National by on July 27, 2010 10 Comments

I think she’s pro-life as long as the mother vows to raise the child to vote conservative. “One of the things Obama’s been doing is deliberately trying to increase the percentage of our population that is dependent on government…For example, do you know what was the second biggest demographic group that voted for Obama? Obviously […]

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She’s Asking For It

Filed in National by on July 20, 2010 17 Comments
She’s Asking For It

Men’s Health list the top 10 signs to look for when trying to pick up women looking for sex.  Bet there will be an app for this soon.  Let’s examine part of the list… Chatting Up The Bartender A flirtatious woman can hardly contain herself. She won’t let a male waiter or bartender take her […]

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The Oprah Presidency?

Filed in National by on June 30, 2010 13 Comments
The Oprah Presidency?

Conservative columnist Kathleen Parker must hate that she doesn’t have a penis. What else could I infer from her vapid column in today’s Washington Post, “Obama: Our first female president”. The premise of the piece is interesting, take Toni Morrison’s famous analogy that Bill Clinton was our first black president, and turn it on its […]

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