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   Comment by liberalgeek on 12 October 2009 at 12:42 pm:

   Tax cuts
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   Comment by arthur on 12 October 2009 at 12:45 pm:

   $100
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   Comment by Scott P on 12 October 2009 at 12:57 pm:

   45% of the time — The number of a good divorce attorney.

   Seriously, I’d say cash or gift in the $50 – $100 range, depending where on the scale they fall between beloved family member and wife’s co-worker’s sister.
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   Comment by h. on 12 October 2009 at 1:04 pm:

   I never give one at the actual wedding, as long as you give one within a year.

   So using that formula I base my contribution on a few criteria: 1) was the liquor top shelf 2) how was the food 3) most important ….. live bands get you a better gift than a dj
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   Comment by Scott P on 12 October 2009 at 1:15 pm:

   You do realize that you’re giving a gift to help the couple begin their life together, not leaving a tip for dinner, right?

   That being said, I’m curious. Does the hottness of the bride or bride’s maids come into play at all? How about the length of the service? I’d tip gift more for a “Let’s say us some vows and grill us some cows” type thing than a long, drawn out service.
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   Comment by pandora on 12 October 2009 at 1:16 pm:

   Are they registered? If so, that makes it easy.
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   Comment by nemski on 12 October 2009 at 2:13 pm:

   Way to bring the conversation down Mom.
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   Comment by anon on 12 October 2009 at 2:25 pm:

   Cash is good for those couples who need it. For couples who don’t really need the cash, best to find a small but meaningful gift.

   Our rule of thumb is the gift should cover the cost of the dinner and then some. The per-head cost is usually more than you would think.
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   Comment by Progressive Mom on 12 October 2009 at 2:34 pm:

   If it’s “young couple, first marriage, proud moms and dads beaming” wedding: cash, as anon said above, or the registry for something long term (silver, china, crystal).

   If it’s “professional, established couple, living together for years, now marrying”, especially if they have hosting a high-end wedding: it’s something from the registry for the long term or something sentimental/ luxurious (high-end dining certificates, wines, photo of the couple you took at the beach three years ago in a lovely frame, etc.)

   If it’s third marriage for him, second for her: use your judgement based on the size and scope of the reception. That’s really the only way to “gift” folks who have been there and done that many times before. (Or just don’t go and send a nice congrats card!)
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    Comment by Von Cracker on 12 October 2009 at 3:25 pm:

    Your presence, DV, is more than enough!

    That, and losing to my new bride’s fantasy football team this week!

    lololololol
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    Comment by Donviti on 12 October 2009 at 3:58 pm:

    bite me.

    started the wrong freaking QB!

    Still have a shot with my RB dickface
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    Comment by Von Cracker on 12 October 2009 at 4:53 pm:

    HA!
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    Comment by Unstable Isotope on 12 October 2009 at 7:39 pm:

    Everyone can use money.

    I agree with pandora. It matter whether it is a couple that doesn’t have much and a professional couple that has it all.

    If they have a registry, get something off of that. Otherwise, money good. One of my hubby’s favorite wedding gifts was grilling tools. The spatula had a bottle opener on the end.
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    Comment by Donviti on 12 October 2009 at 7:57 pm:

    how much money UI…what is the ’standard’
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    Comment by Unstable Isotope on 12 October 2009 at 8:14 pm:

    I don’t know if there is a “standard.” I would probably give about the same amount of money I was planning to spend on a gift. Maybe around $100?
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    Comment by anon on 12 October 2009 at 9:52 pm:

    From you? A Donviti classic poem ought to be perfect.
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    Comment by Donviti on 13 October 2009 at 8:56 am:

    HA! HA! HA!
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    Comment by weddings on 13 October 2009 at 3:02 pm:

    Get something from the registry and you’re done.
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    Comment by Brian Shields on 15 October 2009 at 12:15 pm:

    Reception memories last forever…